How July 10 was a day of reflection…..
By zaheen | July 15, 2009
I woke up in the morning to find no running water. The taps were dry! Oh crap, how would I wash my face, brush my teeth, have a shower. We even had dishes in the sink from last night! For a moment, life felt like it was on hold or stuck. Soon enough my mother quipped, ‘ This will become common now because the rains haven’t come yet and the dams are dry. Water and power will be rationed by the government.’ Fortunately, we managed to get water from a cistern that was available to the tenants living in the area and yes I managed to take a shower. We take things for granted, even water, which is a precious commodity in other parts of the world. I then wondered how the mass population living just outside town manage without water. I asked and some of them collect water from a common well or cistern almost EVERYDAY. We are living in the 21st century and imagine if most of us had to do that. We just turn on the tap or shower and we expect water to flow out. I have taken a couple of videos of my ordeal that morning and it will be posted in August when I return to Alberta, Canada. So conserve water starting today. My afternoon was even more interesting….
Before my trip, I had collected stationery items like pens, pencils, colors, stickers, etc to donate to children. I chose an organisation that helps children with AIDS. The Catholic Archdiocese of Mombasa CBHC and AIDS Relief Project began in 1996 as an exclusively community based home care program providing, initially, medical care to HIV positive people and other sick-poor individuals. Volunteer CHWs (community health workers) from Catholic parishes form the “backbone” of the project.
The driver picked us up and drove us to the office and clinic where we had the opportunity to see teenage children go through a program and receive their medications. It felt so good to see the smiles on their faces when Arissa, my daughter, and I distributed the donated items. A couple of the children were asked to come up and recite poems for us. My husband and Iwere moved by one girl who recited a poem about her life and how AIDS has affected her. As a young child she was raped by her step brothers and uncle, but she now lives with her aunt. She travels a fair distance from her home to the clinic to receive her meds so she can survive.
At that moment I realized that we are so selfish when we complain about our car breaking down, or we complain about our kids or spouse or the house we live in or the job we are in and so on. Imagine living like this teenage girl or even going through what she did. Would you have the strength like she does? Would you have the courage to face society with the stigma of living with AIDS?
I am going to try and get a copy of her poem so I can post it on my blog and I have arranged to go into the community with one of the field nurses/counsellers and I can’t wait.
If you have questions or comments for me please post them or even if you want me to ask the kids certain questions, when I go out with the field staff, let me know.
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How my day at the beach reminded me of the goal I had set.
By zaheen | July 7, 2009
I am visiting my family for a month in Mombasa. Today is day 6. Mombasa is a small town on the coast of Kenya. This is where I grew up and every Sunday would be our day at the beach. My mother would prepare a picnic basket and all eight of us in the family would be so excited when Sunday rolled around. Those are the memories that I grew up with and when I had my daughter, of 4 years now, I had made up my mind that I wanted the same for her.
My first Sunday here, while on holidays, we went to the beach. I breathed in the salty breeze and my feet sunk into the fine white sand as I walked into the beach club that we would frequent. The smell of the sea coupled with the images on the beach brought back happy memories. The first thing my husband, daughter and I did was race to the seashore and let the waves wash over our feet. Oooh the water was cold, but felt so good! Arissa, our daughter, couldn’t wait to go for a swim so she went into the Indian Ocean with her dad. We then drank some coconut water from a vendor that was selling coconuts on the beach. In addition, Arissa got excited when she saw camels strolling on the beach and we asked one of the camel guides to take her on a 5 minute ride and she loved it! I was so happy for her, for us and for the opportunity to create these memories because in the end this is what it is all about, isn’t it?
This is when I had realized that what I teach in the Wealthy Mind Program is so important and so true (of course). There is a section in the program where I talk about ”9 Keys Successful People Have in Common”. One of the keys is Setting A Goal. This January I set a goal that I would be in Mombasa, Kenya. Remember, your goal is your target and it has to be specific and measurable. In addition, reading your goal or giving attention, energy and focus to your goal everyday is important. This is the same as Law of Attraction - You attract into your life whatever you give attention, energy and focus to. I set the goal that I would be in Mombasa this summer or December.
But setting a goal isn’t enough. The second key is Setting Your Intent because your intent is your journey towards your goal….your target. When you set an intent something magical happens. Try this: Say to yourself “I want……….. (fill in the blank) and now say “I Intend to or my intention is…….(fill in the blank). Now when you say the above, what is the difference? Doesn’t the latter sound like it is already happening? I have taken a video of my day at the beach which will be posted in August because the internet connection here is a little slow.
Set the intent for today. For example, set the intent to have a great day or set the intent to experience synchronicities or set the intent for your job interview or working day. Go on, do it and tell me how you felt and what happened and I look forward to your comments.
Note: Wealthy Mind Program has been created by Tim and Kris Hallbom.
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How My Trip Back Home…..
By zaheen | July 3, 2009
How my trip back home brings back memories from my childhood?! After 30 hours of travelling, I am back to the place where I grew up. As we drove from the airport, I soaked up the heat from the african sun. The sound of blaring horns from vehicles coupled with innocent laughter from young children playing on the road side and the tense bumper to bumper traffic and not to mention the odd cow on the road side munching away at the grass brought back so many memories, but also engulfed me with the feeling and sense of being so grateful. Questions rushed through mind as I asked myself: “What would my life be like if I had stayed here? What would I have done? Who would I have become in the process?” I am so grateful to have had the opportunity to study in Canada and make my life in that country. Be grateful for what you have, because others may not have what you have. Be grateful for where you were born and raised because others may not have had choices in the country they were brought up in. Be grateful for the education you received because others may not have had the opportunity to educate themselves. Be grateful for the food you are eating because others may not even have the luxury of having that food on their dining table. Be grateful for the medical care and treatments you receive because others may not even have access to decent medical care. Be grateful……………..
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4 quick ways to eliminate doubt.
By zaheen | June 26, 2009
Check out the Youtube video on 4 quick ways on how to eliminate doubt.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TIw-Jsb10sQ
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How to observe contrast briefly with teenagers?
By zaheen | June 20, 2009
What is contrast? Contrast is something you don’t like or puts you in a negative mood/feeling. In my Law of Attraction seminars, I recommend that contrast be observed briefly becuase if you were to observe contrast for a long time then you send out negative vibes (feelings) and the Law of Attraction matches that and gives you more of the same back. In one of my seminars, I had a lady who said that was difficult to do with her teenage son.
Her son is 15 years old and likes playing video games ( like any other kid would) on TV. However, when she wants to watch her TV shows, he tells her “just 5 more minutes” and this continues for a while and she has missed part of her show or may have ended up with some assertive comments going back and forth between them. She felt she had tried everything and yet it was the same.
I told her that a 15 year old is now forming his/her own identity and is at that stage of being a child, but yet yearning to be independent. A teenager wants to know and be shown love, respect and trust as well as have some control over their own life. I asked her to sit down with her son and make an agenda where mom could slot down her times for her favorite TV shows and then both would agree on video game time for son, but I told her to let her son write down the agenda. This way both are having an input and now because her son has written the agenda he is more likely to follow it as well.
How have you handled contrast with your teenagers? I would love to get some tips.
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Question I am asked by moms’
By zaheen | June 17, 2009
Mothers who have young kids, often ask me this question:
“When I go grocery shopping with my toddler and my child wants something, instead of saying ‘I can’t afford it or I don’t have enough money to buy that today’ what else can I say?
My answer:
I have a 4 year old so I completely understand what mothers go through when out shopping. This what I do with my daughter.
There are 2 ways you can deal with this. The first way is prepare your child before going to the grocery and tell them that you are going to buy items for the house that everyone uses and that your child also gets to pick one item only. Remember, young children age 4 or 5 haven’t got a clue about value of goods. I tell my daughter that she only gets to pick one item when we go shopping and it has to be approved by mummy. If she picks two items, I remind her about what we discussed.
A second way to deal with this is to get your child involved in the shopping. Get them to help you create the household shopping list and cut pictures of items from the flyer to make your list. As you make your list explain to your child, the shopping items are for everyone to share in the house. For example, get them to pick out a breakfast item that everyone can eat. Of course, I get asked about kids throwing tantrums whilst shopping and I believe that when you prepare them before going shopping and also get them involved in the task (giving them the power of making choices), there will be less tantrums.
I have used both strategies with my daughter and shopping has been fun rather than a struggle and I haven’t had to use the phrases “we cant afford it” . Some people may now say that I am spoiling my child by giving her everything. Note, I didn’t say give your child what she wants. Do me a favor, put yourself in your child’s shoes. What do you see, hear and feel? I am sure you see great, colorful items and you are just curious to touch everything and feel everything. You are also excited to be in this place to explore and you want everything in the shopping cart!! Do you see where I am going with this? If you prepare your child that he/she only gets one item, approved by you, your child will remember that and this also gives them a sense of independence.
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