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How to observe contrast briefly with teenagers?
By zaheen | June 20, 2009
What is contrast? Contrast is something you don’t like or puts you in a negative mood/feeling. In my Law of Attraction seminars, I recommend that contrast be observed briefly becuase if you were to observe contrast for a long time then you send out negative vibes (feelings) and the Law of Attraction matches that and gives you more of the same back. In one of my seminars, I had a lady who said that was difficult to do with her teenage son.
Her son is 15 years old and likes playing video games ( like any other kid would) on TV. However, when she wants to watch her TV shows, he tells her “just 5 more minutes” and this continues for a while and she has missed part of her show or may have ended up with some assertive comments going back and forth between them. She felt she had tried everything and yet it was the same.
I told her that a 15 year old is now forming his/her own identity and is at that stage of being a child, but yet yearning to be independent. A teenager wants to know and be shown love, respect and trust as well as have some control over their own life. I asked her to sit down with her son and make an agenda where mom could slot down her times for her favorite TV shows and then both would agree on video game time for son, but I told her to let her son write down the agenda. This way both are having an input and now because her son has written the agenda he is more likely to follow it as well.
How have you handled contrast with your teenagers? I would love to get some tips.
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June 25th, 2009 at 8:58 am
I have to agree with this solution you posted Zaheen. I have a teenage daughter and I found that when I included her in coming up with some new “agreements,” she was much more willing to cooperate with me. I also enforce positive behaviour by providing her a “weekly allowance” while at the same time I am encouraging her to find a job and have helped her with a resume. One of the agreements we worked on was how we would share the computer as there is only one in our home. And as soon as I got her input and considered her feelings we were both able to come to an agreement that seemed workable. The teenager should also have his or her own copy of the agreements and see that Mom and Dad has their copy posted somewhere that is visible so that the teenager knows that Mom and Dad is taking it seriously.
June 26th, 2009 at 11:04 pm
Thank you Katy!
June 26th, 2009 at 11:04 pm
Thank you so mcu for the comment and tips, Charmaine.