Questions to Elicit Desired States
By zaheen | January 11, 2010
1) What do you want, specifically?
2) When, where, with whom do you want it?
Ensure the above two are answered in a positive way. Instead of saying “I don’t want to stay at this weight”, say “I want…” Also be specific instead of general.
3) What resources do you have to accomplish this?
Resources can be everyhting you can use to have what you want. For example, money, education, equity, property. However, in this context it can also be internal resources like ideas, memories, accomplishments from your childhood and so on. Ensure these resources are within your control.
4) How will you know when you have it?
5) What will you see, hear, feel, smell and taste?
6) What will you look like, sound like? etc
This helps you to visualize vividly by using all your 5 senses. Add colour, texture and play around with sounds when you visualize. Even demonstrate the desried state if you can.
7) What will happen if you get this result?
What won’t happen if you get it?
9) What will happen if don’t get it?
10) What won’t happen if you don’t get it?
11) How do you know it is worth getting?
Steo 7 to 11 help you identify if you are going for your goal or sabotaging it.
12) How will this desire affect your life, family, business/job or friends?
13) What will be different as a result of having this desire?
The last two questions helps you figure out if this actually fits your external ecology. For example, a local speaker wanted to travel around the world to spread his word which meant he would hardly be home. He realized that having this desire would not fit into his ecology at this time because he had young children at home.
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What is the Wealthy Mind Program/Experience?
By zaheen | November 8, 2009
Wealthy mind isn’t just about the money. Wealthy mind is about your dreams and goals, but it’s more about finding and uncovering your core limiting belief around wealth and money, at an unconscious level, and then being able to overcome them and replace them with new empowering beliefs around money and wealth. The Wealthy Mind™ Experience is a 2-day program created by Tim and Kris Halbom, Directors of the NLP Institute of California and the program has been all over the world. Wealthy Mind uses cutting-edge NLP (Neuro Linguistic Program) techniques.
When we start the Wealthy Mind™ program, I always ask the audience to define wealth and money. It’s interesting to see and hear all the great answers, but in the end it always comes down to one thing: wealth is not what you and I have, not a thing, it’s a state of mind. Wealth is an internal experience.
2. What is a limiting belief?
Let’s take the second word “belief”. It means mental acceptance of the truth, where you and I have formed our reality based on what we have heard and seen and most of these are formed at an early age. In fact, most of our limiting beliefs are formed by the age of 7 and come from three main sources:
· Our parents
· Our teachers and coaches in school, and
· The social media and our friends.
And the most common ones that I have heard from my clients and people who have participated in the program are:
· I have to work hard to make money.
· Life is a struggle.
· You need money to make money.
· I’ll never be rich….and so on.
My parents have always worked hard and have become successful in the process so I formed my belief as such. However, other people have always worked hard without seeing any success and others have worked smart and seen a lot of success. We have to realize that our beliefs were formed at an age where we had no choice to pick which ones we wanted. Now, as adults, we do have a choice! Limiting beliefs limit us and form our reality and then we wonder why we can’t get ahead. Know that our outer reality is a reflection of our inner reality.
Our beliefs are like an operating system. Our day to day activities and thoughts are based on our operating system. Wealthy people have a different operating system because of their beliefs.
Most of our limiting beliefs around wealth or any other area of our life goes back to a core fear that somehow we are helpless, hopeless or worthless. Take an example of salesperson that has to make a sales phone call. Before making the call the person may think that it is “hopeless” to make the call because the customer will not buy anyway. On the other hand the salesperson may think that he/she feels “helpless” because he/she is not capable of making this particular sale.
3. What exactly do we do in the Wealthy Mind™ Program?
It’s easy to see how a limiting belief gnaws away at you on an unconscious level and can hinder one’s ability to have wealth. These limiting beliefs live deep in our mind and we tend not to bring them out and we don’t exactly know what they are. Well, we help you articulate them consciously through an interview process and through some unique questioning methods because if they are spoken out aloud and articulated consciously then these limiting beliefs can be changed to empowering beliefs. We then use a 4-step process called the Belief Change Method where you explicitly state your limiting belief, then we go on to dismantle it where it is nearly impossible to reconstruct and one way of doing that is by adding new evidence so that it is impossible to continue to have this old limiting belief.
4. What have others experienced after having gone through the Wealthy Mind™ Experience?
Participants have increased their income or have met their goals within weeks or in a couple of years. It is a process and it may take a long time or short time. For example, there was a janitor who did some belief work with NLP and afterwards decided to start his own janitorial business while still keeping his job. He got so busy and did so well that he decided to quit his job and run his business full time. This man is still doing janitorial work, but what changed was his self worth and he began thinking about what was possible.
References:
Hallbom, K. and D’Alo A., Article on The Psychology of Money, Prosperity and Wealth: Patterns in Nature Translated to Human Behavior.
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Visiting HIV/AIDS Clients in The Largest Slum in Mombasa, Kenya
By zaheen | August 10, 2009
I visited my family in Kenya this July and at the same time I wanted to visit an organization that was helping children with HIV/AIDS. In my last blog I wrote about how I did visit the clinic and offices of the AIDS Relief Project. Sister Veronica, the project coordinator, invited me to come along on client visits on July 23 and little did I know that I would be walking through the largest slum in Mombasa.
The slum is known as Bangladesh a.k.a. Bangla and as we entered the narrow streets to go visit clients, I couldn’t believe what I was seeing and hearing. The houses in Bangla are made from cement, concrete and metal and they are 500 to 800 sq ft and this same space is used as a bedroom, a kitchen and living space. The people living in Bangla come from an endless cycle of poverty and disease and in fact 75% of the population is HIV/AIDS positive and Tuberculosis is rampant. Most of the residents in Bangla make their living selling home-made alcohol also known as Changaa. To break the cycle of poverty, many organizations are helping by educating children and sending them to private schools (mainly Catholic). However, this funding usually lasts up to Junior High. Click on the video link.
A look at the largest slum in Mombasa
We started our visits at 8 a.m. in the morning and as we walked through the slum with Sister Veronica and Jane, a Nurse, we carefully avoided stepping on garbage and sewage and entered the first client’s house, which was smaller than a normal sized apartement bedroom! The client, a single mom of three kids, was lying down on a matress because she had slow paralysis from the waist down. She was recovering from TB and was also placed on HIV medication. Please see her video while Sister Veronica translates her dilemma regarding no food in the house and having difficulty paying school fees.
Client with AIDS and TB. Translation by Sister veronica
We continued our journey and visited another client and my heart went out to the toddler who was sleeping peacefully, but had not eaten breakfast and the father did not know what he was going to feed the toddler for lunch. This was very common, especially if the parent is single. Another client who also had HIV, TB and the beginnings of paralysis was so distraught and brokedown and cried. Why? Her husband blamed her for infecting him and left her alone with 2 young kids. She had given up on life and wanted to be left alone.
During these visits I was also going through a variety of feelings. Feelings of guilt, compassion, empathy, helplessness, anger and gratitude. After having a discussion with Jane and Sister Veronica regarding the immediate issues surrounding this project, they informed me that food and school fees are the major challenges they face at this time. In fact, a loaf of bread can feed a family for the day!
We ended the morning where I interviewed a young woman who had completed Grade 12 and was sitting home doing nothing. I asked her what she wanted and she said she got accepted into a college to study Business, but had to decline because she could not afford to pay the college fees. A 2 year program that would have cost her approximately $2000. She stated she wanted a good future and prove to the residents of Bangla that the cycle can be broken. I asked her if she was HIV positive and surprisingly she was negative when tested late last year. I was impressed - here is a woman who had refused to become like the rest, who had actually completed high school and wanted a good future. How can we help her?
I have decided to donate to agencies such as American Foundation for Children with AIDS (www.helpchildrenwithaids.org) and Pediatric AIDS Canada (http://pediatricaidscanada.org/index.html) and at this time, for every Wealth and Abundance CD I sell, $5 will be donated to to either one of these organization. This CD sells for $20. Look at picture below. Let us help..any other ideas out there!
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How July 10 was a day of reflection…..
By zaheen | July 15, 2009
I woke up in the morning to find no running water. The taps were dry! Oh crap, how would I wash my face, brush my teeth, have a shower. We even had dishes in the sink from last night! For a moment, life felt like it was on hold or stuck. Soon enough my mother quipped, ‘ This will become common now because the rains haven’t come yet and the dams are dry. Water and power will be rationed by the government.’ Fortunately, we managed to get water from a cistern that was available to the tenants living in the area and yes I managed to take a shower. We take things for granted, even water, which is a precious commodity in other parts of the world. I then wondered how the mass population living just outside town manage without water. I asked and some of them collect water from a common well or cistern almost EVERYDAY. We are living in the 21st century and imagine if most of us had to do that. We just turn on the tap or shower and we expect water to flow out. I have taken a couple of videos of my ordeal that morning and it will be posted in August when I return to Alberta, Canada. So conserve water starting today. My afternoon was even more interesting….
Before my trip, I had collected stationery items like pens, pencils, colors, stickers, etc to donate to children. I chose an organisation that helps children with AIDS. The Catholic Archdiocese of Mombasa CBHC and AIDS Relief Project began in 1996 as an exclusively community based home care program providing, initially, medical care to HIV positive people and other sick-poor individuals. Volunteer CHWs (community health workers) from Catholic parishes form the “backbone” of the project.
The driver picked us up and drove us to the office and clinic where we had the opportunity to see teenage children go through a program and receive their medications. It felt so good to see the smiles on their faces when Arissa, my daughter, and I distributed the donated items. A couple of the children were asked to come up and recite poems for us. My husband and Iwere moved by one girl who recited a poem about her life and how AIDS has affected her. As a young child she was raped by her step brothers and uncle, but she now lives with her aunt. She travels a fair distance from her home to the clinic to receive her meds so she can survive.
At that moment I realized that we are so selfish when we complain about our car breaking down, or we complain about our kids or spouse or the house we live in or the job we are in and so on. Imagine living like this teenage girl or even going through what she did. Would you have the strength like she does? Would you have the courage to face society with the stigma of living with AIDS?
I am going to try and get a copy of her poem so I can post it on my blog and I have arranged to go into the community with one of the field nurses/counsellers and I can’t wait.
If you have questions or comments for me please post them or even if you want me to ask the kids certain questions, when I go out with the field staff, let me know.
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How my day at the beach reminded me of the goal I had set.
By zaheen | July 7, 2009
I am visiting my family for a month in Mombasa. Today is day 6. Mombasa is a small town on the coast of Kenya. This is where I grew up and every Sunday would be our day at the beach. My mother would prepare a picnic basket and all eight of us in the family would be so excited when Sunday rolled around. Those are the memories that I grew up with and when I had my daughter, of 4 years now, I had made up my mind that I wanted the same for her.
My first Sunday here, while on holidays, we went to the beach. I breathed in the salty breeze and my feet sunk into the fine white sand as I walked into the beach club that we would frequent. The smell of the sea coupled with the images on the beach brought back happy memories. The first thing my husband, daughter and I did was race to the seashore and let the waves wash over our feet. Oooh the water was cold, but felt so good! Arissa, our daughter, couldn’t wait to go for a swim so she went into the Indian Ocean with her dad. We then drank some coconut water from a vendor that was selling coconuts on the beach. In addition, Arissa got excited when she saw camels strolling on the beach and we asked one of the camel guides to take her on a 5 minute ride and she loved it! I was so happy for her, for us and for the opportunity to create these memories because in the end this is what it is all about, isn’t it?
This is when I had realized that what I teach in the Wealthy Mind Program is so important and so true (of course). There is a section in the program where I talk about ”9 Keys Successful People Have in Common”. One of the keys is Setting A Goal. This January I set a goal that I would be in Mombasa, Kenya. Remember, your goal is your target and it has to be specific and measurable. In addition, reading your goal or giving attention, energy and focus to your goal everyday is important. This is the same as Law of Attraction - You attract into your life whatever you give attention, energy and focus to. I set the goal that I would be in Mombasa this summer or December.
But setting a goal isn’t enough. The second key is Setting Your Intent because your intent is your journey towards your goal….your target. When you set an intent something magical happens. Try this: Say to yourself “I want……….. (fill in the blank) and now say “I Intend to or my intention is…….(fill in the blank). Now when you say the above, what is the difference? Doesn’t the latter sound like it is already happening? I have taken a video of my day at the beach which will be posted in August because the internet connection here is a little slow.
Set the intent for today. For example, set the intent to have a great day or set the intent to experience synchronicities or set the intent for your job interview or working day. Go on, do it and tell me how you felt and what happened and I look forward to your comments.
Note: Wealthy Mind Program has been created by Tim and Kris Hallbom.
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How My Trip Back Home…..
By zaheen | July 3, 2009
How my trip back home brings back memories from my childhood?! After 30 hours of travelling, I am back to the place where I grew up. As we drove from the airport, I soaked up the heat from the african sun. The sound of blaring horns from vehicles coupled with innocent laughter from young children playing on the road side and the tense bumper to bumper traffic and not to mention the odd cow on the road side munching away at the grass brought back so many memories, but also engulfed me with the feeling and sense of being so grateful. Questions rushed through mind as I asked myself: “What would my life be like if I had stayed here? What would I have done? Who would I have become in the process?” I am so grateful to have had the opportunity to study in Canada and make my life in that country. Be grateful for what you have, because others may not have what you have. Be grateful for where you were born and raised because others may not have had choices in the country they were brought up in. Be grateful for the education you received because others may not have had the opportunity to educate themselves. Be grateful for the food you are eating because others may not even have the luxury of having that food on their dining table. Be grateful for the medical care and treatments you receive because others may not even have access to decent medical care. Be grateful……………..
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4 quick ways to eliminate doubt.
By zaheen | June 26, 2009
Check out the Youtube video on 4 quick ways on how to eliminate doubt.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TIw-Jsb10sQ
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How to observe contrast briefly with teenagers?
By zaheen | June 20, 2009
What is contrast? Contrast is something you don’t like or puts you in a negative mood/feeling. In my Law of Attraction seminars, I recommend that contrast be observed briefly becuase if you were to observe contrast for a long time then you send out negative vibes (feelings) and the Law of Attraction matches that and gives you more of the same back. In one of my seminars, I had a lady who said that was difficult to do with her teenage son.
Her son is 15 years old and likes playing video games ( like any other kid would) on TV. However, when she wants to watch her TV shows, he tells her “just 5 more minutes” and this continues for a while and she has missed part of her show or may have ended up with some assertive comments going back and forth between them. She felt she had tried everything and yet it was the same.
I told her that a 15 year old is now forming his/her own identity and is at that stage of being a child, but yet yearning to be independent. A teenager wants to know and be shown love, respect and trust as well as have some control over their own life. I asked her to sit down with her son and make an agenda where mom could slot down her times for her favorite TV shows and then both would agree on video game time for son, but I told her to let her son write down the agenda. This way both are having an input and now because her son has written the agenda he is more likely to follow it as well.
How have you handled contrast with your teenagers? I would love to get some tips.
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Question I am asked by moms’
By zaheen | June 17, 2009
Mothers who have young kids, often ask me this question:
“When I go grocery shopping with my toddler and my child wants something, instead of saying ‘I can’t afford it or I don’t have enough money to buy that today’ what else can I say?
My answer:
I have a 4 year old so I completely understand what mothers go through when out shopping. This what I do with my daughter.
There are 2 ways you can deal with this. The first way is prepare your child before going to the grocery and tell them that you are going to buy items for the house that everyone uses and that your child also gets to pick one item only. Remember, young children age 4 or 5 haven’t got a clue about value of goods. I tell my daughter that she only gets to pick one item when we go shopping and it has to be approved by mummy. If she picks two items, I remind her about what we discussed.
A second way to deal with this is to get your child involved in the shopping. Get them to help you create the household shopping list and cut pictures of items from the flyer to make your list. As you make your list explain to your child, the shopping items are for everyone to share in the house. For example, get them to pick out a breakfast item that everyone can eat. Of course, I get asked about kids throwing tantrums whilst shopping and I believe that when you prepare them before going shopping and also get them involved in the task (giving them the power of making choices), there will be less tantrums.
I have used both strategies with my daughter and shopping has been fun rather than a struggle and I haven’t had to use the phrases “we cant afford it” . Some people may now say that I am spoiling my child by giving her everything. Note, I didn’t say give your child what she wants. Do me a favor, put yourself in your child’s shoes. What do you see, hear and feel? I am sure you see great, colorful items and you are just curious to touch everything and feel everything. You are also excited to be in this place to explore and you want everything in the shopping cart!! Do you see where I am going with this? If you prepare your child that he/she only gets one item, approved by you, your child will remember that and this also gives them a sense of independence.
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